You Can’t Always Get What You Want – Or Can You?
Call me old-fashioned but I grew up with the American Valentine’s model. You just sent a card to someone you admired from afar – but didn’t let the recipient know it was from you. It was just a pretty card with a romantic line and compliment sent anonymously.
Of course this led to a frustrating no-win situation. The recipient may have been delighted but was left with an uneasy – and unfulfilling – feeling of not knowing their admirer – and the possibility that they were being stalked by someone they wouldn’t like even if they met them.
Or that they had won the attention of a Prince (who couldn’t declare his love and marry them because in those times, commoners were no-goes). Havoc for an over imaginative mind (in my case). The sender was in the same position. What was the point of flattering but not getting brownie points for the effort?
Fortunately for all, times have changed. A lot of women have Feb 14 as a red line date in their Google Calendar with a week’s alert. They have had their manicure ready for a ‘ring’ adornment moment (possibly – if things go very well?), a facial and new lippy ready for the ‘surprise’ romantic dinner.
Even stopped eating (as much) for a blow out day that will include more champagne than normal.
Now not all men have upped their game unfortunately and there is always a slim chance that A. He might forget entirely B. He might remember but fail to get something original.
If you are in the A or B group, don’t sulk.
Do It Yourself
Take matters into your own hands. Find that beautiful restaurant; perfect lingerie; your own special romantic gift, peruse Eurostar timetables for weekend breaks to Paris; and let all the other women who surround your beau, drop very big hints – discreetly on your behalf. That way it is his idea (yay).
No, this isn’t manipulation my dears, just training for many February 14ths to come.
(Oh and, an expression of surprised and delighted, wouldn’t go amiss, Miss).
Your ‘Surprise’ Valentine’s Gift – Romance and Passion In One
Synonymous with romance and passion, black lace and hearts are right up there for any dashing fellow to give on Valentine’s Day. Fortunately, our new modern lace heart pendants combine both in a sleek, contemporary shape. Have a look here.
They are designed as an antidote to the more traditional heart (we have them too) in case you are after more modern looking jewellery.
Of course, if you aren’t into hearts and don’t want real lace close to your skin ( can be scratchy!), as lace experts we have a few other black lace jewellery ideas for Valentine’s day and beyond.
Wear it to work on Valentine’s Day with anything black?
Or this beautiful lace effect silk scarf which curiously was named Valentina from birth a year away from the 14 Feb.
Unfortunately, your loved one may not know about this excellent idea, so his sisters, friends, Mum, daughter or female work colleagues could help him out – if you told them.