Wedding Guest Woes
It’s that time again. Another summer wedding invitation is miraculously on the mantel. It doesn’t matter if ‘you know them well’ or struggle to remember any connection with ‘them’ at all, it comes to the same. You are now a ‘wedding guest’ and are expected to dress as such.
I have, until recently, found this all quite stressful. For one, as a woman in black, I have to contend with my worst fear. Colour.
Then there is all the rest of the unnecessary stress. What style dress, what pattern, what to top and tail it with and where to get it all before you lose the will to live ?
You would think having been to a wedding in the past, I could reach deep into the abyss that is my wardrobe and re-wear the same thing all over again?
Oh that’s far too easy. Sadly, while these dresses have held on to their youthful good-looks, my figure has not. Blame it on my winter hibernation feeds ( well you never know when famine will strike?) and the fact that fashion moves on remorselessly, that ‘investment dress of yore’ is no longer a contender. But as a true friend of the bridal inviter, I know that this wedding guest malarkey is not to be taken lightly. It’s serious.
Forget the bride, going to a wedding brings out the inner model/perfectionist in us all – these are the ultimate dressing up occasions. I’m there to form part of the glamorous entourage – future wedding albums await me and fashion posterity beckons.
Fortunately, this summer I think I have nailed it – see what you think?
First, find one or two super elegant, beautifully cut sheath/shift dresses in your favourite colour ( no pattern though) – I bought one in old rose and another in a fresh pale blue. Both were sleeveless but the bottom line is it’s all about a blank, if coloured, canvas.
My big trick is a giant, beautiful, summer scarf. I always use something unusual and pay a bit extra for ‘discoveries’. Mine are photo scarves. But you could choose anything with a pattern – just a really exquisite piece is what you are after. Not only will it give you colour and revitalise the ‘same’ dress again and again but chosen well, it will turn heads – particularly those watching in the pew behind you.
Search for chunky high heels in a nude colour for elegance but comfort too. Remember there will be a whole lot standing around, and then there’s the milling, the dancing and that 19th glass of champagne that can set the best of us a swaying.
Oh and when the scarf is put to one side as you dance the night or day away… some statement earrings or jewellery will stop that little basic dress from feeling alone.
A hat? Never could do them.